Making Peace with Where You Are
Welcome to the first official day of your Compass Playbook Perfect™ Work Course. Hopefully you've spent some time in the Course Primer and you're ready for the meat of the Course and to get into defining and designing your ideal work.
The best place to start is where you are now, right? And that's what this first lesson is all about. We're going to talk about getting clarity around your now, which is an important step for two critical reasons:
- You get to look at where you are right now more definitively and from a place of appreciation
- You get to create a milestone to base your improvement upon so you recognize it when it happens
Direct Your Mind's Power
In this Course and in all of the Compass Playbook training, intention is the impetus to improvement. You will learn how to set a new intention, more clearly understand your mindset (which is fueled by beliefs) and what is holding you back from getting your ideal work and living the full expression of your gifts and talents. You will be more powerful in your discernment of how you think about your work and learn how to shift and reframe what you've been thinking about what you do for a living to more productive, positive thoughts that will inspire you and bring you closer to the experience you most deeply want.
Power Posing with Amy Cuddy
In this TED video, social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing”—standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident—can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success. This further illustrates the power of your mind and how easily you can influence it to achieve your most important goals. Let's retrain that brain!
The two Plays in today's lesson provide you an introduction to the work you'll be doing in the Course. The first Play is identifying where you are, and the second Play is about creating a clearer picture of expectancy, even though you've not done the clarifying work that you'll be doing in the Course yet. When you've completed this practice, check in with how you feel about your situation. You can expect to feel better and more hopeful.
Before you do these Plays, however, strike your POWER POSE for two minutes. (If you don't know what a power pose is, go back and watch the video above.)
You Are Here Play
Where are you regarding your work? This is where you get present to how you perceive your work situation as it stands right now. Do the following Play in your journal (or wherever you are doing your Compass Playbook Plays for this Course. In the future, we'll use the term "journal," but please use whatever recording tool you prefer, including the Compass Creative Process Templates provided to you as PDFs).
- Finish this sentence in a factual, unemotional manner and do not infuse it with attitude or opinion: "Right now, my work situation is...". For example, "Right now, I am trying to get my new business off the ground." Or, "Right now, my work situation is that I have been an employee with XYZ Company for eight years." Or, "Right now, my work situation is that I am unemployed." After you write that sentence, reflect on it distinct from what you make it mean. In other words, look at it from the singular standpoint of a fact, and separate what you make your work situation say about you.
- Write about how you feel right now about the work situation you are in. More than likely, it will be emotions that are not so great, such as frustrated, bored, unappreciated, scared, overwhelmed, etc. otherwise you wouldn't be doing this work. Wherever you are is okay. Write a couple of paragraphs about how you feel and why you feel that way about it. Let your emotions flow and record whatever you are present to. This should feel good to you to get it out on paper, even if the way you feel is not great.
- For the last part of this Play, do an appreciative inquiry about all that you have experienced and learned about every job you've had to this point as well as other ways you've expressed your unique gifts and talents. What came before this situation? Write about the past jobs you've had as well as any observed jobs held by friends or family—even fictional occupations portrayed in books or movies. Keep only one thing in mind when you do this inquiry: write from the standpoint of what you appreciate about those experiences and observations. For example, "I appreciate what I learned from my very first job working for my dad. I got to understand more about what he did and how he supported our family. I realized that the fastener industry wasn't just about nuts and bolts—it was how the products I used every day were assembled and worked. Without what my dad did with his company, things would fall apart." And, "My first job after college taught me a lot about earning an employer's trust and he returned that trust by teaching me a skill that has helped me get recruited for some of my best jobs." Get specific with details if it makes you feel good. The key is that you keep your focus on all of the things that you really loved and enjoyed about your prior gigs as well as those you've observed and admired.
For the second Play, you are going to take the first step in creating the place you want to be as a result of completing this Course. Hang with us for a second. What this Play does is create expectancy, and even though you may not know exactly what you'll get out of this Course, you definitely know what result you want right now. So let's capture that.
- Like the first step in the last Play, complete this sentence: "Right now, the ideal work I want to create for myself is...". For example, "Right now, the ideal work I want to create for myself is to start my own practice where I not only have the freedom to do the work I love to do, but also the ability to help others heal chronic pain with acupuncture and Chinese medicine."
- Write about how you expect to feel once you have achieved that state of your ideal work as you see it right now. Include emotions and explain why you feel that way. For example, "I'm going to feel so fulfilled knowing that my instinctual gifts as a healer are changing the lives of those I touch. I'm going to feel so eager to meet new patients and humbled to be able to offer them alternative medicine for their chronic issues."
- For the last part, as in the prior Play, do an appreciative inquiry about all that you imagine you'll be able to experience once you are experiencing your ideal work. Keep it all positive, focus on the emotional aspects as well as the specifics of the actual aspect that you are appreciating. Such as, "I appreciate how my having my own practice allows me to design the services that I offer, the hours I work and who I choose to have as clients. The flexibility of doing my craft in my space, my way is going to be such a delight and so rewarding."