Aligning to Your Ultimate Partner
Quantum fields are really a mind-bending way of thinking. Everything—and I mean everything—is just a consequence of many infinitely-large fields vibrating.
Learning and Making New Neural Connections
Yup, more brain stuff.
Dr. Joe Dispenza studied biochemistry at Rutgers University and shares his ideas about the brain, learning, and how we can make our brains work harder for us. In this video he talks about the science of changing your mind and illustrates how the brain creates new synaptic connections from learning and having new experience—whether real or imagined. He proposes that your body doesn't know the difference between the emotion created by an actual experience and the emotion that you fabricate by thought alone—that the body believes it's having that experience, regardless. Watch now:
Who do you need to be?
After watching Joe's video and doing the prior Course lessons, you should now have a pretty good idea that the brain is where all of the physiological action happens, what it does and why. Yet there are still critical components to the actual thought process that are not fully understood, at least to the point where we can more fully come into complete control over our realities.
What you're going to do now is help the brain create new neural pathways with deliberate thought through perspective shifting and vantage-point focus. This will have a multiple-level effect on not only how you feel about your ideal relationship, but also give you a new understanding of your own perspective of who you need to be for that person to come into your life.
Ultimate Relationship Alignment Play
This is a multiple-part Play that involves you making a list of the characteristics in your ideal partner. Once you've painted that picture, you will then make a list of the qualities that they would like in their ideal partner, and that would be you, of course, or would it?
When you look at a situation from a new vantage point you see things that you would not normally see. This Play affords you the opportunity to look at who you need to be in order to be the right person for your ideal partner. Be patient with this Play as it does have several steps and requires moments of reflection between the steps. It is a rigorous exercise that will deepen the detail of what you are looking for and give you greater access to what is already in your ideal relationship bank.
- Make a list of the characteristics of your ideal partner. This includes one-word descriptors such as kind, sensitive, strong, confident to statements such as "enjoys helping others," or "loves to investigate waterways, canoeing and kayaking." Feel free to be as detailed as you want, because this is your creation. You are mining the preferences you've already deposited in your ideal relationship bank.
- After you have completed your list, check in with how you feel. Sit back and take a few moments with your eyes closed to really let the energy of this person flood your senses. Let the descriptors you listed wash over you and feel the love and the attraction you have to that ideal partner. Focus your attention as best that you can in this simple, brief meditation.
- Now that you have a good sense of that person, move your attention fully into them and stand in their shoes and become them. Think like they would think. Look through their eyes. Pretend that you are them and put yourself in their head and heart. This may feel awkward, but don't worry. Because you have created them in your mind, just thinking about them and their characteristics will put you in the energy of them.
- From their perspective, pretend to be them doing the same exercise you just completed. Think of their desires and what they want. Create a new list of their desires for the perfect mate. Who are they looking for? What are they feeling? Are they feeling alone? Are they frustrated like you are? Are they longing for that perfect match that will allow them to step more fully into who they really are? Are they seeking someone to love unconditionally? Are they eager and excited knowing that their ideal is just moments away and coming to them? Write as if you are them and create this list. Go with what comes naturally—if you feel drawn to write more of a story from their point of view, do so. If you feel more like creating a drawing, do so. Follow your creative muse and go with whatever creative process you feel will give oxygen to their viewpoints.
- After that second list is complete, sit with what you created. Check in with how you feel. How do you feel now versus when you first started? Do you feel more or less connected to this person? Do you feel compassion for them? Understanding? Fear? Discomfort? Anxiety? Write briefly about how you feel to this point in this Play.
- Step back and compare both lists. When you look over your ideal partner's descriptors, think about the alignment (or lack of alignment) in what they are looking for versus how you see yourself. Consider who you need to be in order to more closely align with what they want. Write a story about how you need to begin thinking to create the outcomes that they are looking for as well as the outcomes you are looking to create. So if your ideal is looking for someone who is comfortable in their own skin and loves their body, what can you do to think the thoughts that help you become more comfortable in your own skin and love your body?
- Create a to-do list of actions that will help you become more like the person your ideal is seeking. Set these action items in your calendar or planner and do them for the balance of the Course. These can be things such as reading a book on self-image, buying sexier clothes that make you feel more attractive and comfortable, or simply taking a few moments to look at your body in the mirror, smile and feel love for all that your body is giving you.
They are real
The reason this Play is so important to do is that your ideal partner is already known by the Universe and is present and real—just not to you...yet. This is just one more powerful step in the telling of your new story and of getting you more relaxed and ready for them. Do you feel it?