To Dream Your Dream...

All human beings are also dream beings. Dreaming ties all mankind together.

—Jack Kerouac

 
palm tree beach

Ahh...the beach.

Wouldn't it be nice if you could go for a long walk on the beach with your true love? To feel the foamy water on your bare feet as they mush into the sand while you both walk hand in hand? To smell the salty air and hear the palm fronds tickling in the afternoon breeze? To know that you didn't have to be anywhere or do anything but be with your love? That the whole world centered and froze in those moments you strolled the sand together?

When you linger inside that image in your mind's eye, how does it make you feel? Dreamy? Loved? Romantic? Frustrated? By this time in the Course, you should more easily find yourself envisioning scenes like this and being open to the possibility of a future that includes experiences like this with you and your love. If you had a more negative response (frustration, etc.) to that mini visualization, you may still be focusing on the absence of your true love.

Let's tumble some rocks

A rock tumbler is a device that literally tumbles rocks in a drum to get them smooth and shiny. What we want to do in this lesson is help you smooth out some of your rocks regarding the fact that you are not in your ideal relationship yet.

Like a sharp pebble in your shoe, it draws all your attention until you have to stop and remove your shoe and get that annoying little pebble out. So let's smooth out some of those sharp pebbles regarding the progress of your ideal relationship coming to you.

 

Course Practice

Tumbled Rocks Play

List Template (PDF)

List Template (PDF)

Compass Playbook intentionally sidesteps focusing on negative aspects by helping you avoid giving attention to what is unwanted. In this Play, you will generate a slew of new aspirations from desires triggered by distasteful observations without staying in the spotlight of negativity. Use what you don’t want as inspiration for what you do want.

Step 1: Start by listing the things that are grabbing your attention regarding:

  • What you don't like about your relationship situation right now
  • What frustrates you or worries you about obtaining your ideal relationship
  • What is concerning you regarding how you're going to make it all happen or how it will come about
  • The timeline of when it will all unfold and you'll meet your true love (or get your existing relationship back on track)
  • Anything else that may be keeping your attention on the lack of your ideal relationship
guy on rocks

Be careful not to let your emotions get too into the red zone (negative), as it will be more challenging to recover. If you've got a lot of focus on lack and the absence of your ideal relationship, then this list will populate easily. Make the list quickly, capturing the things that are most present and top-of-mind and then move on to the next step.

Step 2: For each item you listed, write at least 3 new statements that counterbalance the thought. You should feel a sense of relief, even hope, after each one. For example:

Untumbled rock: I'm really tired of being alone all of the time. (focused on what's missing, negative statement, worry.)

Tumbled rock: I know things will sort themselves out. I can use my alone time to visit my family and maybe start a new project. Being alone has really helped me appreciate being a couple, and I'm looking forward to experiencing that when it happens. In the meantime, I'm going to enjoy my space and free time. (More positive, focused on the positive aspects of the situation, a perspective shift, focus given to what's coming and away from what is missing.)

Remember to focus on what you are currently living from a place of appreciation. Acknowledging how far you've come, what you've learned and accomplished, and where you are right in this very moment. When you focus so much on what's missing, you perpetuate the state of it not being present in your life. Love yourself and love your life! That's the quickest way to elevate your mood and get your compass needle pointing back to your Magnetic North.