Belief is Power
I truly believe in positive synergy, that your positive mindset gives you a more hopeful outlook, and belief that you can do something great means you will do something great.
Going the Wrong Way?
How do you know if you're focused on the wrong thing? How do you know if what you're thinking is keeping your ideal relationship away from you? There are two ways: the first is by your emotions and the second is by what your current life experience is showing you. If either of those are off, even if you're not initially aware, you need to turn yourself around and start going the right way with what you are thinking.
In this clip from the 1987 film Planes, Trains and Automobiles, Steve Martin and John Candy are totally clueless they are headed the wrong way on a highway at night no less. Watch what happens in this hilarious scene.
Take it to the Bank
The way you feel and what's happening in your life will always let you know by giving you experiences that reflect what you're thinking. In relationships, if you are unaware that you have a thought about yourself such as, "I'm not good enough for an amazing partner like that," when you meet someone amazing who takes your breath away and fills you with desire, your emotions will let you know. You'll feel low, moody, depressed and resigned. Why? Because what you are thinking about yourself is not who you really are.
If you notice that you keep attracting people who are lazy, not very excited about their lives and generally complain about their circumstances, this is feedback that you have thoughts that are lazy, uninspired and teetering on victimhood. The universe is reflecting back to you what you are thinking by putting people on your path who mirror your attitude and mindset.
Knowing that you have two never-fail ways to get feedback on where your mindset and focus is pointed, why would you deliberately choose to continue to think that way if the feedback wasn't what you wanted? What you are learning in this Course is helping you identify your patterns of thought and how to shift those and tell a new story. You are now creating thoughts that inspire you instead of defeat you, and allow you to move in the direction of not only what you most want in your ideal relationship, but to be open to and receive all that you deserve. True love. Lasting passion. Excitement and adventure. A partner to walk a new path with and share an ever unfolding life experience of joy.
Focus Shifter Play
This Play is to help you identify and literally shift your focus from what you don't want to what you do want. You'll know if you are moving in the right direction because you'll be getting more positive feedback in the form of emotions closer to your Magnetic North as well as life experiences that are evidencing how wonderful and powerful you are.
- In a one-sentence statement, write the essence of the issue that’s bothering you. For example, “I’m worried that I'll never find the right person to complete my life's dream of finding a soul mate.”
- Write about why it came up or what triggered it. It could be an event, what someone said, a disappointment, doubt or limiting thought you've been conditioned to believe based on past experience.
- Write at least ten positive statements of what you could think about that same topic that make you feel better or feel relief. Give yourself an inner pep talk, similar to how you’d cheer up a worried friend. Be general or "big picture" (not specific) if it helps you more readily accept the new positive statements.
- Lastly, write a new statement concerning the topic, one that you feel summarizes what you captured in your positive statements such as, "I know that I am worthy of an amazing partner. All that I am learning about myself is helping add dimension and understanding to who I am so I can be the perfect match for someone just as amazing as I truly am." Or, if you have trouble believing your new statement, opt for a more generic statement that provides you gentle relief such as, "This is just temporary. I am on the right track and headed in the right direction because I feel better. My perfect partner could be just days away from meeting me and changing my life forever." You'll know it when you write which ones resonate with you—it may show up as chills, happy butterflies in your stomach, or a tingling at the top of your head. Write that the original thought has no more control over you and deliberately choose the new statement as your new story of how it is going to be for you. Write how you’re looking forward to feeling better, getting back on track and in the right direction toward your ideal relationship.