Understanding the Compass Framework (part 3)
Before a brain can register a thought, a mind must think it... every step of the way is mind over matter... We override our brains all the time.
The Complexity of the Mind
We are learning new things about the brain through the study of neuroscience, neuropsychology, neurobiology and neuroeconomics. From the simple fact that the brain is a lazy organ to the complexity of neuroplasticity, where the brain can actually learn and make new neural pathways that lead to better thinking and responses in behavior, we are constantly stretching the domain of what we know about the human brain and its function.
But really, you just want to get the love and the ideal relationship you want. How does that relate to the brain? It does in that you will learn through Compass Playbook creative exercises (Plays) exactly how to do that and have fun while you're drawing, writing, visualizing and conjuring the best relationship you could ever have.
Compass Distinction #3:
Anyone can train the mind to focus properly and create with deliberate intentionality.
Deliberate vs. Default
Working in the Compass framework will help you become a more deliberate thinker. What goes through your mind will be focused toward achieving what you want, instead of what you're afraid of or don't want. How that translates into relationships is that you will learn how to look at your current relationship situation with appreciation instead of what's missing.
You will discover that you have so much more potential and become more hopeful, eager and adventurous. Instead of defaulting to thoughts that focus on loneliness, lack of appreciation or whatever you're noticing about your current relationship situation, you will learn to deliberately focus and your relationship will shift to a more happy, joy-filled and smile-filled experience.
Retraining the Mind
If you have desire, you have beliefs that surround, support and do battle with your desire. When you doubt getting the relationship of your dreams because of your beliefs ("I'm not worthy, there are no good men/women out there, I'm not pretty enough," etc.), you create expectancy of outcomes you don't want. What Compass does—and what you'll learn to do in this Course—is retrain your mind to focus on the aspects of your ideal relationship that you most desire. You'll learn to give up "stinkin' thinkin" that gets you reliving the same outcomes over and over.
You'll learn how to identify the beliefs that are holding you back and how to reframe them and adopt more productive beliefs. By paying attention to your emotions, deliberately and creatively getting your focus onto things that you enjoy and learning how to allow inspiration to come more readily to you, the ideal relationship—and many other wonderful things—will begin flowing into your life.
Thought Microscope Play
This clip is from the 2004 sleeper film What the #$*! Do We (K)now!?, and in it, Marlee Matlin is introduced to the work of Dr. Masaru Emoto and how positive thoughts/words/blessings effect the crystallization of water molecules.
After watching, make a list of the positive and negative thoughts you have throughout the day about your ideal relationship. In the left column, write positive thoughts, in the right, negative thoughts.
When finished, you will have already experienced a vibrational shift in your awareness of how much attention you're giving to thoughts that don't serve you or your ideal relationship coming to you. Those thoughts include those where you notice more that you're not in your ideal relationship to thoughts of not deserving or being worthy of an amazing love (which you are, by the way, and so much more).
Make a deliberate effort to spend more time thinking positive thoughts around getting your ideal partner. Think about loving yourself more, accepting that they are coming to you and that you do deserve to have true love. Add new positive thoughts to your list and practice thinking those positive thoughts until you've retrained your brain (established new, permanent neural connections) to naturally think more positively about your situation.
You'll know if you're on the right track by how you feel!
Happy :-) = good, positive thoughts
Sad :-( = Notsomuch
Recommended Reads on Brain Science and Creativity
Here are a few great reads about the brain, neuroscience, appreciative inquiry, creativity and confidence. These are just some of the books on our shelves at Compass Playbook. (Just look at the bookshelf behind Terry in her videos!)