Understanding the Compass Framework (part 2)
Your intellect may be confused, but your emotions will never lie to you.
What You Want is Not Necessarily the Key
Your emotions are the key to truly understanding desire and beliefs. Let's say that you want to be in a relationship with someone who is gentle, easy-going, listens to you patiently and appreciates you. That sounds wonderful, doesn't it? Of course. Many of us want to have that experience. But why? Do we ever explore the WHY behind what we want?
When you are finally in that relationship with a perfect partner who has these qualities, how will you feel? You'll feel important, of value, interesting, relaxed, but most importantly, you'll feel loved.
Understand that what fuels desires is the need to satisfy an emotional need. This is the basis for the pursuit of happiness and why it is elusive for so many. We think getting a thing or person or experience is what will solve our problem—make us feel better—when really it's the better emotional feeling that we really want. Because we are in action and doing something (we are natural problem-solvers and DOERS) we think we are actually working toward achieving the result we want.
This is why the Compass framework supports connecting with your emotions in relation to what you believe. Emotions will help you quickly discern what you're thinking so you can more rapidly identify beliefs that you need to reframe in order to achieve the emotional experience that you want. Hence:
Belief + Focus = Fulfilled Desire
Compass Distinction #2:
Your current emotional state directly relates to the belief you are currently thinking about any given subject.
The Compass Model
Imagine the face of a compass. It has a needle that will reliably point to magnetic north. Depending on which direction you turn and face, the needle will move, always holding faithful to magnetic north. Each micro-direction point on the compass rose represents feedback as to where you are facing.
In the Compass model, we replace the directions with emotions. So each micro-direction point represents an emotional state or feeling in a range from positive to negative and back again.
Your highest good, passion, greatest joy and who you really are as a fully self-expressed soul is YOUR Magnetic North. When you move toward or away from your Magnetic North, your emotions correlate to where (or what) you are focusing your attention. This is your own internal compass so you can know what you are thinking and adjust that thinking so it brings you closer to what you want—your highest good!
When you are thinking, you are focused. You give attention to a subject and how you perceive yourself interacting with that subject generates emotion, and those perceptions are fueled by your BELIEFS. If you are focused on your interaction being one that makes you feel a negative emotion, the conclusions (or beliefs) you have about it are keeping you away from your Magnetic North. Conversely, if the emotions you are experiencing are positive, the conclusions (or beliefs) you have about it are drawing you closer to your Magnetic North and what you most deeply desire.
Compass Labeling Play
Some of us are more practiced than others at being conscious of our emotional state in any given moment. However, we may sometimes collapse what we are experiencing with emotion. The feeling generated from what we believe about what we're experiencing is the actual emotion. What we experience gets filtered by our beliefs, or our stories, adding layers of meaning to events. This triggers a myriad of emotional states—good and bad—based on the stories we have about the experience.
Isolating and identifying your emotional state is critical to this training, and if you have your own compass to use as a go-by, you'll be that much more practiced at distinguishing your emotion from the cause of the emotion.
For this lesson's practice, create your own emotion compass and use it for the balance of the Course. Print this Compass Template PDF and use it to list the emotions YOU are most commonly experiencing. Try to list at least 12 positive emotions and 12 negative emotions. List your emotions as if you're finishing the sentence: "I feel [emotion]".
Write the most positive emotion you feel in the Magnetic North (your true calling and highest good) box and your most negative emotion in the polar opposite box. Then, write the balance of your emotions and then plot them in degrees of positive to negative and back again around the compass graphic (similar to the example above.) Feel free to update your template as you uncover new emotions as a result of moving through this program.