Making Peace with Where You Are
In this lesson, we are going to talk about getting clarity around where you are right now. This is an important step for two critical reasons:
- You get to look at where you are right now more definitively and from a place of appreciation
- You get to create a milestone to base your improvement upon so you recognize it when it happens
Direct Your Mind's Power
In this Course and in all of the Compass Playbook training, intention is the impetus to improvement. You will learn how to set a new intention, more clearly understand your mindset (which is fueled by beliefs) and what is holding you back from getting your ideal body and living the life you want and deserve! You will be more powerful in your discernment of how you think about physical well being and learn how to shift and reframe what you've been thinking about your body to more productive, positive thoughts that will inspire you and bring you closer to what you most deeply want.
Power Posing with Amy Cuddy
In this TED video, social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing”—standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident—can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success. This further illustrates the power of your mind and how easily you can influence it to achieve the goals that are most important to you. Let's retrain that brain.
There are two Plays that you will do for today's lesson that will give you an introduction to the work you'll be doing in the Course. The first Play is identifying where you are, and the second Play is about creating a clearer picture of expectancy, even though you've not done the clarifying work that you'll be doing in the Course yet. When you've completed this practice, check in with how you feel about your situation. You should feel much better and more hopeful!
Before you do these Plays, however, strike your POWER POSE for two minutes. (If you don't know what we mean, go back and watch the entire video above.)
You Are Here Play
Where are you regarding your ideal body right now? This is where you get present to how you perceive your body situation as it stands right now. Do the following Play in your journal (or wherever you are doing your Compass Playbook Plays for this Course. In the future, we'll use the term "journal," but please use whatever recording tool you prefer, including the Compass Creative Process Templates provided to you as PDFs).
- Finish this sentence in a factual, unemotional manner and do not infuse it with attitude or opinion: "Right now, my body situation is...". For example, "Right now, I weigh XXX pounds." Or, "Right now, I am wearing a size 14." Or, "Right now, I am on high blood pressure medicine." After you write that sentence, reflect on it distinct from what you make it mean. In other words, look at it from the singular standpoint of a fact, and separate what you make your body situation say about you.
- Write about how you feel right now about the body situation you are in. More than likely, it will be emotions that are not-so-great, such as frustrated, sad, angry, disgusted, resigned, etc. otherwise you wouldn't be doing this work. And that's okay. Write a couple of paragraphs about how you feel and why you feel that way about it. Let your emotions flow and record whatever you are present to. This should feel good to you to get it out on paper, even if the way you feel is not great.
- For the last part of this Play, do an appreciative inquiry about all that you have experienced and learned about your body to this point. What came before this situation? Write about the past bodies you've had (what was your body like when you were six years old? Ten years old? Fourteen years old? Twenty? Our bodies are always changing as we age and grow.) as well as any observed bodies (friends, family, fictional, etc.). Keep only one thing in mind when you do this inquiry: write from the standpoint of what you appreciate about those experiences and observations. For example, "I appreciate how athletic I was when I was in junior high school. I can remember being the fastest girl in school, and I set a school record for the 49-yard dash. I loved how much energy and flexibility I had back then. And when I was even younger, I used to climb trees and run all over the fields across the street from where we lived with my dog, Tilly. I felt like I never ran out of gas, and each night after an active day I would sleep like a rock." Get specific with details if it makes you feel good. The key is that you keep your focus on all of the things that you really loved and enjoyed about your prior bodies as well as those you've observed and admired.
For the second Play, you are going to take the first step in creating the place you want to be in as a result of completing this Course. Hang with us for a second. What this Play does is create expectancy, and even though you may not know exactly what you'll get out of this Course, you definitely know what result you want right now. So let's capture that.
- Like the first step in the last Play, complete this sentence: "Right now, the ideal body I want is...". For example, "Right now, the ideal body I want is one that weighs between 130-140 pounds, is totally yoga-like flexible where I can bend over and place my palms flat on the floor, and that I have consistent energy throughout the day. I want my skin to have a radiant glow, be plump and hydrated, and a body that looks great in clothes and drives my partner wild."
- Write about how you expect to feel once you have achieved that state of your ideal body as you are describing it right now. Include emotions and explain why you feel that way. For example, "I'm going to feel so confident out on the dance floor as I dance with my partner, showing off my sexy legs and my physical stamina. I'm going to love shopping for new clothes to accentuate and show off my body. I'm going to be able to take on more challenges because I'll have the energy and clarity to get more done at my job."
- For the last part, as in the prior Play, do an appreciative inquiry about all that you imagine you'll be able to experience once you get to your ideal body. Keep it all positive, focus on the emotional aspects as well as the specifics of the actual aspect that you are appreciating. Such as, "I appreciate how my body stays healthy and resists colds and viruses. I love how it provides me with the ability to work, play and enjoy life through activities I enjoy as well as with who I enjoy doing them with. I am so happy that I have a body that can adapt and improve based on how I am changing and improving. I love my body!"